I received the following “life lesson” from my Mom, who received it from a friend in an email. I decided it was worthy of sharing on my website. I feel myself changing in many of these ways, as I turned the milestone birthday of “60” this past September.
I believe with age comes wisdom, comes confidence, comes empathy, comes compassion, comes strength, comes compromise, comes knowledge, comes generosity, comes a better perspective on life, comes a more caring view of others, comes a better understanding of human nature, comes emotional resiliency, comes humility, comes openness, comes learning from our experiences and so much more.
The following is the “Lesson for Life” my Mom shared with me.
“I asked one of my friends who has crossed 70 & is heading
to 80 what sort of changes he is feeling in himself?
He sent me the following very interesting lines, which I would like to share
with you ….
#1 After loving my parents, my siblings, my spouse, my children, my
friends, now I have started loving myself.
#2 I just realized that I am not “Atlas”. The world does not rest on my
#3 I now stopped bargaining with vegetables & fruits vendors. A few pennies more is not going to burn a hole in my pocket but it might help the poor fellow save for his daughter’s school fees.
#4 I pay my waitress a big tip. The extra money might bring a smile to her
face. She is toiling much harder for a living than me.
#5 I stopped telling the elderly that they’ve already narrated that story
many times. The story makes them walk down the memory lane & relive the past.
#6 I have learned not to correct people even when I know they are wrong.
The onus of making everyone perfect is not on me. Peace is more precious
#7 I give compliments freely and generously. Compliments are a mood enhancer not only for the recipient, but also for me. And a small tip for the
recipient of a compliment, NEVER turn it down, just say “Thank You”
#8 I have learned not to bother about a crease or a spot on my shirt.
Personality speaks louder than appearances.
#9 I walk away from people who don’t value me. They might not know my
worth, but I do.
#10 I remain cool when someone plays dirty to outrun me in the rat race. I
am not a rat and neither am I in any race.
#11 I am learning not to be embarrassed by my emotions. It’s my emotions
that make me human.
#12 I have learned that it’s better to drop the ego than to break a
relationship. My ego will keep me aloof, whereas with relationships I will
never be alone.
#13 I have learned to live each day as if it’s the last. After all, it
might be the last.
#14 I am doing what makes me happy. I am responsible for my happiness, and I owe it to myself. Happiness is a choice. You can be happy at any time,
just choose to be! 😁
Why do we have to wait to be 60 or 70 or 80, why can’t we practice this at any stage and age….”.
These points are SO VALID. Why don’t we put them into play in our younger years? I believe the answer to this question is WITH AGE COMES WISDOM. It takes experiencing the ups and downs of youth, the stresses of early adulthood and balancing career with family life, and just experiencing friendships, breakups, failures and successes. All of these experiences through our lives change us a little bit at a time until we get to a point where it all starts to come together and make sense.
When we get to this place, we know it. We realize that all of that worry, fear, jealousy, competition, heartache and other emotions we lived with growing to maturity were all part of the journey to that place of “wisdom”.
Ah….it’s good to be here. I can sleep at night with the knowledge of having lived through the growing pains.
I hope you have realized your emotional resiliency. That’s what it is. A strength evolved from experience. Just like the wise old owl…
“Wisdom is not a product of schooling but of the lifelong attempt to acquire it”. – EINSTEIN