“There is a big difference between giving up and letting go. Giving up means selling yourself short. It means allowing fear and struggle to limit your opportunities and keep you stuck. Letting go means freeing yourself from something that is no longer serving you. Giving up reduces your life. Letting go expands it. Giving up is imprisoning. Letting go is liberation. Giving up is self-defeat. Letting go is self-care.” – Daniel Koepke
It’s hard not to worry……but what is worry really doing for you? Is it helping the situation or making matters worse? I have to believe worry is going to make matters worse.
We all worry at some time in our lives…whether it’s about relationships, finances, children, health and the list goes on.
Worry is a burden we carry within about something that likely hasn’t happened yet and/or most likely never will. It’s an emotion that bogs us down with negative thoughts, stress, depression and even physical illness.
Worry is kind of like a “control” over situations. If we worry about something we somehow can affect the outcome but this is not so. We always think about the worse case scenario. What if? If you allow this doubt to take over your emotions it can be paralyzing interfering with your day to day living, your work performance, relationships etc. Worrying is a habit that you can break with some soul searching and motivation.
Here’s an example of how worrying works in a negative way. If I really want a good nights sleep and go to bed worrying about how many hours I’m going to get of quality sleep, it seems my worry causes my body to fight sleep. Crazy right.
There are some good things that come out of worry. For example if you are worried about finances then you will likely not spend your money foolishly. That’s a good thing.
Did you know that worry and dread affect the body in a harmful way producing cortisol and adrenaline. These are generally short term “fight or flight” bodily chemicals but if you are in a constant state of worry these chemicals can cause blood clots, accelerate blood pressure, cause muscle cramping etc. Long term worry can manifest into a serious illness.
Some existing illnesses get worse with worry. For example, Multiple Sclerosis is one disease where we want to keep our stress levels low to avoid exacerbation of symptoms. Other diseases such as cancer, cirrhosis, heart disease and mental health issues can become worse as a result of chronic worry.
Now granted, there are valid reasons to worry in this world. With the economy on a roller coaster, rising health issues, terrorism etc. we all carry a little worry about that in our subconscious mind. But we also fret over the tiniest of things which only cause our anxiety levels to increase. This leads to stress, sleeplessness, fatigue, irritability, procrastination and many other negative situations.
Worry is a reaction to a threat. It is also the fear of uncertainty. It’s kind of like a coping mechanism.
I use to be a real worry wart….now that I’m living with a chronic and debilitating condition I tend to throw caution to the wind. My worry levels have dropped significantly. I think this is so because my Multiple Sclerosis falls into the “big picture” and the rest of the “stuff” I would worry about has now become trivial in the grand scheme of things. Does this make sense to you?
Worry is pointless and is not a good remedy to put up against the harshest experiences in our lives.
So…if you can….stop the worry. Live in the moment. Yesterday is not worth worrying about as it is already behind you. Worrying about tomorrow is not worth it as it isn’t here yet.
“Don’t miss the sun today worrying about the rain coming tomorrow.”