One thing I’ve learned in life is you cannot change how people feel about you. You’ve heard the saying “it’s none of your business how others feel about you”.
I’ve written about “envy” in the past. The reason I decided to visit the topic of “jealousy” is there is a situation that has presented itself with some people I know that I believe is, no doubt, rooted in “jealousy”. It’s a darn shame but unfortunately it happens.
Jealousy is a terribly destructive resentment toward others based on possessions, insecurity and betrayal. We think of this emotion as a school age issue but it runs rampant in adults too.
Jealousy is linked to feelings of insecurity, comparing ourselves to others in appearance, social status, financial levels, job success etc.
Unfortunately there is nothing one can do to stop someone from being jealous of you. It has a strong and powerful hold on the jealous persons mind. If someone is obviously jealous of your life or a part of your life it’s a darn shame. You just have to carry on and live your own life in happiness. The jealous person is the one who is suffering. But if you really want to maintain your relationship with this person you may have to address this person head on. Remember that we can’t please everyone and no matter what we do or say, some people will always be in a state of jealous fog. I believe in taking the higher ground and just ignore the jealousy. Letting go of the need to respond is freedom to me.
There are some great sayings about jealousy and envy.
“People only rain on your parade because they’re jealous of your sun and tired of their shade.“
Oprah Winfrey says “You can’t be friends with someone who wants your life.”
“Don’t let someone dim your light, simply because it’s shining in their eyes.”
“Never hate people who are jealous of you, but respect their jealousy because they’re the ones who think that you’re better than them.”
“Don’t waste words on people who deserve silence. Sometimes the most powerful thing you can say is nothing at all.”
“Some people create their own storm and get mad when it rains.”
It’s sad that relationships, whether friend or family, can be spoiled by the emotion of jealousy. We just have to live our lives happy. Living in a mindset without jealousy breeds a happy and healthy and peaceful life.