It’s interesting to note that we live in a society full of convenience, luxuries, multiple forms of entertainment etc. which should make us happy but oddly, a good majority of people are miserable. What’s up with that?
Happiness is a choice. If you decide to be happy, then you will be happy. If you decide to be grouchy and miserable then you will be grouchy and miserable. Funny how that works. It has nothing to do with how much money you make, how nice your car is, how big your house is etc. Although many people think they will be happier if they have a nicer car or a nicer house, for example. That’s just not going to happen. It’s all about choices.
Abraham Lincoln once said “most folks are as happy as they make up their minds to be.”
Happiness is a kind of practice you need to be mindful of. Kind of like exercising your muscles, you have to exercise your happiness. A great way to increase your happiness factor is to become more grateful for all of the blessings in your life. And there are many simple blessings in all of our lives. We just need to “wake up and smell the roses”.
Did you know that your level of happiness or unhappiness affects every cell in your body. According to Deepak Chopra in his book “Perfect Health…The Complete Mind Body Guide”, all of our thoughts turn into chemicals. When we are happy, chemicals in the brain travel throughout your body telling all of your cells that you are happy. This turns all of the cells in your body into happy cells and your body functions more efficiently towards good health. And the opposite is true too. If you are giving off a message of unhappiness then chemicals give off that negativity to the cells and that affects how your immune system functions. Unhappiness could manifest a disease. The human body is amazing.
Now granted, we all have days where we feel blue, down in the dumps, frantic, overwhelmed and the like. But hopefully these emotions are just a passing thing and not something that lives inside us for a long time, only to wreak havoc on our health.
As I’ve written about in previous posts, I believe I’m happier now, a different kind of happy, than I have ever been in the past. I believe it has taken my Multiple Sclerosis diagnosis and lifestyle changes to really make me appreciate what a blessing life truly is. I’m not so wrapped up in materialism and making sure I have the most current “stuff” anymore. That is not important to me. I find joy in the simplest things now, like being able to spend a rainy afternoon on my chaise lounge reading and sipping a hot cup of green tea. Those quiet times are so special to me. Those simple things make my cells happy. I know that to be true. I can feel it in the way my slightly disabled self performs when I’m feeling bliss. Things work better with a happy mood.
Nothing irks me more than to go into a business or store and be greeted by someone who is unhappy, angry with the world and could care less about why I am there. But I understand that we all have bad days. I can’t be judgemental because I don’t know what is going on in that persons life to make them so unhappy. I just have to allow my happiness to remain strong to combat the downer emotions an unhappy person gives off.
Have you ever watched a toddler for any length of time? They are truly happy. They have nothing getting in the way of that emotion. They don’t know what stress is, they don’t know what jealousy is, they are not in competition with anyone, they are just plain happy and oblivious to all of the crazy emotions that will come their way later in life. It’s really something to behold. Next time you are in the presence of a young child just watch how they operate. They are happiness at it’s peak.
As Confucious say “Life is really simple, but we insist on making it complicated.”
Let me share some things that bring me joy and up my happiness quotient. Simple things that most take for granted…..
A good stretch, the smell of a fresh pot of coffee brewing and I don’t even drink coffee, playing with my dogs, when my hubby calls me sweetheart, my Mom’s hugs, receiving a beautiful card from a friend, the final chapter of a great book, a cool swimming pool on a steamy hot day, one little piece of dark chocolate melting on my tongue, 10 minutes of meditation, laughing with my brothers and sisters, a juicy and ripe organic mango, seeing a nice complexion in the mirror each morning and knowing it is a direct result of healthy lifestyle, our grandchildren giggling, a big organic salad loaded with natures bounty of fresh veggies, thunderstorms when I know I’m safe in my home, genuine people….and on and on I can go with this list. These are simple things we experience on a day to day basis that most of us take for granted. I have, through reading many spiritual books and doing some soul searching, now become very in tune with the simple moments that make me happy.
Life is good. Be happy.