“All blame is a waste of time. No matter how much fault you find with another, and regardless of how much you blame him, it will not change you. The only thing blame does is to keep the focus off you when you are looking for external reasons to explain your unhappiness or frustration. You may succeed in making another feel guilty about something by blaming him, but you won’t succeed in changing whatever it is about you that is making you unhappy.”
― Wayne W. Dyer
Great words from Wayne Dyer, spiritual lecturer.
Society today is all about blame. Nobody will take ownership of their own errors or shortfalls. Everybody blames someone else if things aren’t going well for them. Even the governments and superpowers of our world blame other countries causing the wars, unrest etc. Many people are out to find someone to sue. Our court system is stretched to the maximum with lawsuits for all sorts of things.
Blame is…according to Wikipedia “The act of censuring, holding responsible, making negative statements about an individual or group that their action or actions are socially or morally irresponsible, the opposite of praise. When someone is morally responsible for doing something wrong their action is blameworthy.”
Next time you are in a conversation with someone listen carefully and maybe you will hear that person you are talking with start to point the blame finger at someone or something. It could be a friend, family member, store clerk, doctor, or maybe even the weather that is the focus of blame. Listen and you will surely hear the “blame game”.
As shared in Louise L. Hay’s fantastic book “You Can Heal Your Life” she believes that resentment, criticism, guilt and fear cause many health problems…and more so than anything else. Louise writes that these four emotions cause major problems in our bodies and in our lives. She is correct when saying that blaming others and not taking responsibility for our own shortfalls creates havoc in our cellular health. It seems that when you are constantly living with blame towards others that is the kind of person you are going to attract into your life. If you take responsibility for your own life circumstances then you will no longer see those people to blame anymore. It is a mirror that reflects back your own thinking. The thoughts in you attract people who treat you this way. It’s known to be called the “Shadow Effect”.
Resentment…also known as blame….held in your body for a long time will eat away at you and eventually result in dis-ease….namely cancer.
Blaming others makes you stay in the problem. As Louise continues to suggest in her book…blaming another is giving away your power. The past is unchangeable and the future is shaped by current thinking. A very good point Louise makes is that if you demand perfection from others then you demand it from yourself and this pressure will cause misery throughout your life.
When we let blame control us, precious time and energy are wasted. We lose our awareness of the choices we have….good choices. Focusing on the faults of others is a total waste and drags us down. We get no where living this way. In fact it makes us feel stressed and that is not a good way to live. Focusing on blame makes us feel like a helpless victim. But if we live the opposite of this we empower ourselves to deal with our own issues and create success and good health.
So folks…..stop blaming others for your shortfalls. Take responsibility for your problems and stop looking for someone to blame. It’s only hurting you.
Too bad we couldn’t get the governments of this world to look at things this way. Maybe we wouldn’t have wars…if everyone could just learn to get along and stop the personal ego stroking and finger pointing. Peace….what a heavenly notion.