“Sincere forgiveness isn’t colored with expectations that the other person apologize or change. Don’t worry whether or not they finally understand you. Love them and release them. Life feeds back truth to people in its own way and time – just like it does for you and me.” – Sara Paddison
All of us have experienced hurt inflicted on us by the words of others at some time in our lives. This hurt can leave you with long lasting anger which can be harmful to your health. If you can find it in your heart to forgive the one who hurt you it will be helpful to you spiritually, physically and emotionally.
By forgiving you lighten your load. You can spend your valuable time and energy on more positive elements of your life. The stress and anguish of remaining in a state of anger and resentment is detrimental to your well-being. It is a fact that when we hold negative emotions towards others or even to ourselves we contaminate our own physical and spiritual systems. As Caroline Myss writes in “Anatomy of the Spirit” ‘By far the strongest poison to the human spirit is the inability to forgive oneself or another person’.
Forgiveness is challenging. Especially if the person who hurt you doesn’t admit that they are in the wrong. It is your decision to let go of your anger towards that person. This is not to say that you will forget what has been done to you but forgiving will help the pain fade and allow you to move on to more positive things in your life. Forgiveness does not mean that you justify the wrong… you can forgive without condoning the act against you. This will bring you peace and focus on “moving on”.
If you are the person who needs the forgiveness you first have to acknowledge your errors and how they have affected the person or persons you wronged. Don’t be too hard on yourself. If you are truly sorry then admit it and express your sincere regret asking for forgiveness.
Whatever the outcome when offering or receiving forgiveness, always treat people with compassion and respect. We are all human. We all have feelings.
Deepak Chopra is an amazing motivator in the spirit of the mind and body. He writes in his book “Reinventing the Body, Resurrecting the Soul”, ‘To extend forgiveness shows that you have found a way out of the trap. Forgiveness comes easy once you stop being attached to not forgiving. The blame game is over.’
In our society today many people seem to be under so much stress. People are unhappy, angry, anxious, depressed and the like. People are rushing around, multi-tasking themselves to exhaustion, missing the nourishment of whole foods and filling their bodies with processed foods and chemical commercialism. Maybe all of this contributes to the bitterness and “it’s all about me” attitude in our society today. Let’s all slow down and try and be more grateful for the planet, more caring towards others and more loving to ourselves. You can’t love others unless you love yourself.
FORGIVE….for the sake of your own health.